tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post7727100348675081310..comments2023-09-27T21:25:50.750+10:00Comments on L'eggs Up And Laughing: Back To SchoolOvaGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12150362175853549015noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-72690507733107235462008-05-31T03:38:00.000+10:002008-05-31T03:38:00.000+10:00I as the unmarried, and never even tried to get pr...I as the unmarried, and never even tried to get pregnant person shouldn't be able to relate to this, but you see I can, and do to a huge extent. You see I always wanted children, and I know now that I won't get to have them. <BR/><BR/>It has been a really bitter pill to swallow as all of my friends have gone on to have them, my best friend has three. Don't get me wrong I am so pleased for her and her hubby, and they have a wonderful life with them, but I wanted them too. <BR/><BR/>It is one of the things that can give me real down periods, often just after friends have been to visit bringing their wonderful little ones with them. It is one of the things I try very hard to put on the back burner, but it still rears its ugly head every now and then, I wont get the chance to even try.Mimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15347739764524842718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-41757034257730654552008-05-26T17:34:00.000+10:002008-05-26T17:34:00.000+10:00ah, a beautiful post! i'm very happy that you and ...ah, a beautiful post! i'm very happy that you and meg survived infertility; so many friendships do not.<BR/><BR/>i love that australian phrase "confronting" because it so perfectly describes what it's like to look back on those horrible feelings of jealousy and self-loathing that i felt when my friend m. was pregnant. our decades-old friendship didn't survive my infertility (although i think it was already in trouble before that); while we both contributed to our break, i can't imagine how hard it must have been to deal with the sad/raging/bitter/self-loathing person i was at that time. (it gives me the willies just thinking about it!)<BR/><BR/>here's to you and to meg and a friendship that will last a lifetime. i hope you'll share your play with all of us whenever it's done.<BR/><BR/>as always, best wishes to you, ova girl.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00339218492642457024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-48616762023861443822008-05-24T16:50:00.000+10:002008-05-24T16:50:00.000+10:00I can relate to this - when I was first trying a f...I can relate to this - when I was first trying a few years ago the one person I thought was completely disinterested in having children (and I know this because she kept repeating this fact to me), fell pregnant and at the time we were both close friends & work colleagues. I remember when she told me we were out walking at lunchtime and I felt like someone had struck me in the guts with a sledgehammer. It took all my mental muster to feign delight and joy for her. When we got back to the office I immediately walked out again and sat in front of a nearby church and bawled my eyes out. I didn't even think I could ever look at her again. The saving grace was that she was not a gushy pregnant woman and preferred not to talk about it and I think that saved the friendship. I kept my infertility a secret for a long time from everybody so I don't think she ever twigged to my angst. We're still close friends and she now knows all the gory details of my infertility trials. Now that I've finally cracked the pregnancy puzzle (16 weeks along) she is overjoyed for me. But yes your post brought back all those memories when I felt the universe was parading pregnant bellies in my face left, right & centre. Great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-52575294965233048402008-05-24T12:17:00.000+10:002008-05-24T12:17:00.000+10:00Thanks for this. It has indeed been cathartic and ...Thanks for this. It has indeed been cathartic and inspiring and quite a bit of fun as well. Now I need to find the time to rewrite the play and this might not happen until we go on holidays in a couple of months. I am officially back on the cops and crossbows. Which is great.<BR/><BR/>Yes, i do feel the monster regarding the second child but it's a smaller monster that I can kick in the head most days. I can live with that monster.<BR/><BR/>Cal thanks for your comment I'm glad this does help in some tiny way...(xx)<BR/><BR/>And MO... these things that bubble up are very wierd, and see I was wondering if you still read my blog and now I know. And in my heart I'm still be-bobbed and you're still spotty legged. vxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-221846576960992882008-05-23T22:43:00.000+10:002008-05-23T22:43:00.000+10:00wow. I am going through this right now with one of...wow. <BR/>I am going through this right now with one of my closest friends. We started trying the same month and she has a two year old and I don't. My infertility is a mindblow for her and we have had many, many almost breakups because we were just not able to hear each other, or even speak to each other. Jealousy was (is) also our issue. Mine, not hers.<BR/><BR/>Reading this post is incredibly good for me because it reminds me that even though I some times make it insanely impossible for my friend to keep loving me, she somehow still does.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing this raw moment so that I can work on my own fucked up shit.<BR/><BR/>I hope you will share more about the play as it unfolds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-17574245023116872482008-05-23T21:12:00.000+10:002008-05-23T21:12:00.000+10:00Monsters are for slaying.Friends are for keeping. ...Monsters are for slaying.<BR/>Friends are for keeping. <BR/><BR/>xxMO<BR/><BR/>Specially ones who can wear a killer bob.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-20914081068495505162008-05-23T19:45:00.000+10:002008-05-23T19:45:00.000+10:00Ugh that green monster - if its not too impertinen...Ugh that green monster - if its not too impertinent to ask - is it making a reappearance again with those having a second baby?Sparklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03105677499048659242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-55867345034518983202008-05-23T19:22:00.000+10:002008-05-23T19:22:00.000+10:00you write what's in my heart OG, goddamn it.... a ...you write what's in my heart OG, goddamn it.... a big green bitter, bile flavoured monster is my daily companion.<BR/><BR/><BR/>PS I love that you used the word "cunt" you rock!LLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08387580774016694162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-57119300011004565522008-05-23T16:35:00.000+10:002008-05-23T16:35:00.000+10:00life is perverse, isn't it? there i was with three...life is perverse, isn't it? there i was with three kids when even one would have been a shock... green with envy over women who had one child and could cope. we live in crazy places.Grithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14022216340604423686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-73064935782701715002008-05-23T01:16:00.000+10:002008-05-23T01:16:00.000+10:00I can't think of a better work experience than one...I can't think of a better work experience than one that offers you a break from the everyday, coffees with friends, a big girl drink after class and a cathartic journey as well. Keep it up, Vanessa...you're a hero to so very many. And you and your friend...aren't you just the luckiest two girls in all of Australiadom to have each other as best friends.Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06000460026115818932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-45888406710995140192008-05-22T23:52:00.000+10:002008-05-22T23:52:00.000+10:00A friend of mine discribed having a child after in...A friend of mine discribed having a child after infertility as losing a leg - you're awfully glad you have one left, but jesus you miss the one that's not there.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you can slay the monster (even for a little while) with your words.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10294772.post-24532796743016036032008-05-22T22:25:00.000+10:002008-05-22T22:25:00.000+10:00I'm glad your friendship survived despite the gree...I'm glad your friendship survived despite the green monster's presence (I know him well). <BR/><BR/>Your class sounds wonderful.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03941079549267331427noreply@blogger.com